Monday, October 26, 2009
Facebook is finally being called out on the ridiculous SUGGESTIONS of people we need to reconnect with. For some time now I have been wondering when this was going to happen... I remember the first time I logged on to facebook and was greeted by the suggestion to add my ex as a "friend": immediately I began a staring contest with my screen, waiting for the image to disappear, which quickly evolved into a if-looks-could-kill glare when I realized I was not imagining this and Faceook, indeed, had the AUDACITY to suggest I be friends with my ex.
Thanks for the suggestion, Facebook, but I'd sooner amputate my leg with a plastic butter knife. Apparently this "suggestion" was based on the fact that we have mutual friends... NO SH*T!! They are enough of a reminder of the relationship from hell. If I ever took Facebook's relationship "suggestions", they should actually revoke my membership on account of the fact that I MUST be VERY unstable...
However, probably due to my mastery of blocking out ALL things related to my ex-mistake, it wasn't long before Facebook's insulting suggestion had faded from my mind. Maybe my computer had decided to make it's own candid camera/ PUNK'D episode... I'm SURE the look on my face was reward enough for what could ONLY be a cruel prank.
Apparently Facebook wasn't done reminding me of my poor choice in dating that guy. However, when I didn't take their advice, they decided to try a different approach: MY NEXT BOYFRIEND. He is a GREAT guy, meaning he not only has NOTHING in common with my ex other than the same friends of mine he now knows, but my ex, being the pathetic excuse for a guy that he is, also had caused serious problems in my new relationship and even threatened the new man in my life. Awkward doesn't even BEGIN to explain the feeling when I got the text saying "Soooo... something really strange keeps happening... Facebook keep suggesting that I become friends with (SCUMBAG). I am not dealing with this". I was speechless. His name is NOT mentioned between us. Now this guys was having to look at a picture of my past on his home screen every day.
So, on behalf of all of the people who have been subjected to these unwanted and inappropriate "suggestions", PLEASE FACEBOOK, leave matchmaking to MATCH.COM.
Unfortunately Facebook’s algorithms can’t account for some less desirable scenarios: according to Twitter () reports, the site is recommending that users reconnect with ex-girlfriends and ex-boyfriends. It’s recommending they reconnect with their (current) husband or wife. It’s even advising people to reconnect with friends who have died, causing obvious distress. These aren’t isolated cases: there are scores of
Twitter reports of these issues.
The new Facebook () is wonderful and I’m thoroughly addicted to the new Live Feed. But please Facebook, take a second look at your Reconnect feature."
Monday, October 5, 2009
So, today's topic is of a more serious nature than most on this page. As you may infer from the title, I try to highlight the positive aspects - the silver linings, if you will - in this messy, crazy yet BEAUTIFUL life we are all given. Throw in a little ADHD, my quirky sense of humor and, voila!, you have the crazy, beautiful mess that is this page! Yet, while I want this page to be a place people can come to get a laugh or a reminder that this IS a beautiful life we all have been given, it is by that same token that I feel it is incumbent upon me to address some of the harsh realities that effect so many of us. In a way, it is a vicious cycle: trials and adversity tend to yield some of the most inspiring stories, quotations, and movements that serve as shining examples of what the human soul is capable of dealing with. These battles some of us are forced to fight provide the rest of us with proof that we are not only capable of waging that battle, but of doing so with grace and poise. These are some of our unsung heroes and examples of what we should strive to be. At the very least, they are our our mothers, sisters, and, above all, fellow human beings. Yes, we all have our own problems. But, as the Dalai Lama says, "If you wish to experience peace, provide peace for another."
On that note, and in the spirit of October being Nation Breast Cancer Awareness Month, I am attempting to eliminate two of the most common excuses for doing nothing: "I didn't know what to do" or "No matter what I do, I don't have that much time so it won't even make a difference". First, here is an EASY way to do SOMETHING: click on the link above and sign up for reminders. That's right: The Breast Cancer Site will email you to remind you to take two seconds out of your day and click on a pink button. Each time you click it, that tiny, seemingly insignificant action, results in money being donated to support a variety of resources for people who can't afford them and research that could save the life of someone close to you. This site is also a wonderful resource for those who want to make more of a contribution, be it financial or otherwise. You can sign petitions, send cards to friends, encouraging them to get involved or even purchase a variety of merchandise, from which a portion of the proceeds are donated to the cause.
If you want to know of even more ways to get involved, feel free to contact me. Regardless of your interest, I'm very passionate about giving back, when I have had so much given to me. Chances are, if you're interested in getting involved, I can point you in the right direction.
However, I am not writing this in the hopes that you all will quit your jobs and volunteer for the rest of your lives. I'm simply asking you to click one extra button a day to help out someone else.